It's so easy for someone to say "If it makes you look good, get it" when they wear a size 2. I made a comment the other day to my mom about a top that I sort of liked, but I had to wear a XXL when I normally wear a large. I didn't get it partly because of that fact.
I try my hardest to eat right and stay active and get confronted by my sister, who is a size 2, 5'8", 125lbs, and has a slender frame. She states she is tired of hearing about me not getting something because I have to ordered a size or three larger. She claims that if she was a size 10, or 16, or 20, she'd just get an item of clothing if it looked good. That's easy to say, but in reality, people who are bigger tend to have self esteem issues. A lot about the way you look is self confidence. I don't feel as confident in a XXL, so I don't get it. That's my thing, but apparently my sister feels as though it impacts her because she hears it for days on end. In reality, I mention that I'm not getting a top, and that's pretty much the end of it.
My sister also commented that it's my responsibility to eat right and exercise, implying that I don't do either. Research shows that eating right is the majority of what is needed in order to lose weight. Exercise is a good way to maintain weight, not lose it.
This isn't about exercise or weight loss, this is about people who are naturally slender (who have never been overweight in their life) who think they know what it's like to be larger or plus size. They believe they would act the same if they were larger. I believe some of my low self esteem comes from my sister criticizing me and telling me that the way I feel about clothes is ridiculous.
I'd love to hear what other people think on the situation. Am I wrong to think my sister would act differently if she were 6 or 8 sizes bigger than she is now? It seems pretty ignorant to think that she wouldn't act differently, because she has never been more than a size 4 (and that's with the discrepancy in different brands' sizing charts). I know in a perfect world, the phrase "if it looks good on you, get it, no matter what size it is" would work, but we don't live in a perfect world, and people have self esteem issues.
I've always thought she was ignorant. And I definitely believe you are right here.
ReplyDeleteDon't let your sister drag you down, Sam. You are a beautiful person with many talents. I totally understanding what you're saying in this blog and sometimes feel it too. Two thumbs up for the post and good luck with your endeavors.
ReplyDeleteP.S. Love the pictures with your horse. :)
Thanks Lacie, and Anonymous :). I feel better knowing I'm not alone!
ReplyDeleteI feel like you also have to realize that even though your sister (and other slender people in the world) are smaller than you they may have larger self esteem issues than you realize. Almost every woman in the world - or mainly America - has AT LEAST one issue with their own bodies. I understand from many view points the struggles of weight, but there is a lot of pressure on skinny people too.
ReplyDeleteAgreed, everyone has some sort of self esteem issue, but that doesn't give anyone the right to degrade others in order to make themselves feel mightier.
ReplyDeleteThat's true - but not understanding how you feel is not the same as degrading you. Or else your sister could say the same thing, that you don't understand so you are degrading her.. just a thought.
ReplyDeleteI didn't degrade her. I simply don't comprehend why she was being so ignorant. She spoke to me in a manner that was not just uncomprehending, but in a way that showed she was better than me. I see the point you are trying to make though. Many things can go both ways like that.
ReplyDeleteI hadn't really thought about it too much but you most definitely make me think. But honey, you should buy clothes you like no matter what the tag says. If it makes you feel good, buy it :) Screw some XXL tag. Sizes make no sense anyways. And, I think you look completely gorgeous. You might not be a 00 but you look twice as hot as anyone who is <3
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